Enhance Family Unity Four Tips To Make Your Child Feel Included
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Enhance Family Unity: Four Tips To Make Your Child Feel Included
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When you were a kid, did you ever feel that your parents had to be from a different planet? Maybe because they seemed to speak a whole other language when it came to rules and expectations. Or because they didn’t include you in very much, so it was like you were operating in two separate universes.
Many of us grew up in an era where parents led and kids followed—no questions asked. For me, this old parenting approach where there was a rigid “do as I say” mentality isn’t how I wanted to do things as a mom. And maybe you’re feeling the same way on your parenting journey.
So, I want to share a fresh take: What if our families operated out of mutual respect and everyone had a say, no matter their age? What if everyone felt truly heard and valued?
Just imagine your home filled with more connected conversations, smiles, lingering hugs, high fives, those moments of eye contact where you just get the other person and feel seen and heard. It’s possible.
An important step to take to create that close family bond? Make your home a place where everyone plays an integral role. Ready to dive into how? Let’s go!
Four Key Questions to Make Your Child Feel Seen
We all know it... Times have changed, and so has the way we parent. Many of us are stepping away from the “because I said so” attitude, and you know what? It feels good—breaking down those old barriers that used to keep parents and kids in separate corners. And if you’re feeling called to parent a different way than you were parented, I’ve been where you are.
The thing is, when you focus on an approach as a parent that values contributions from every family member—you’re not just helping your kids grow; you’re inviting them to be active participants in shaping your family’s life together.
This doesn’t just bring you closer. It transforms your home into a space filled with understanding and respect. And I promise, you’ll start to see a huge shift in your family’s day-to-day happiness.
Here are four questions you can ask that not only promote openness and growth in your home but also make each child feel deeply seen and valued:
- How am I doing as your parent?
Opening up this conversation shows your vulnerability and willingness to grow alongside your children. It sets a powerful example, showing that growth and learning are each a lifelong process. By asking this, you tell your children that their opinions matter, which can profoundly impact their self-esteem and your relationship.
- Can I support you more?
This question shows that you’re open to adjusting your parenting to fit their needs. Asking this builds a foundation of trust and strengthens the connection with your child. They’ll know you’re there to listen and care for them.
- Do you have any feedback for me to be a better parent?
Encouraging feedback creates open communication. This question lets your child know they play an active role in shaping how things work in the family, making them feel valued and respected.
- Am I supporting you in ways that make you feel good?
This question is so important for validating your child’s feelings. It shows that the support you provide aligns with what makes them feel secure and loved. By regularly checking in, you affirm that their emotional well-being is a priority, and this reinforces their sense of security and belonging within the family.
Shouldn’t Your Family Include Everyone?
When you ask these types of questions regularly to your children, whether that be daily, weekly, monthly, or in some flow that works for all of you, you’re not just talking; you’re inviting your child right into the heart of your family.
If you could peek through the window of your home in the future—what would you see? Maybe it’s you and your teenager at the kitchen counter, sharing a genuine conversation over breakfast, each question deepening your bond. Or perhaps it’s bedtime with your younger child, where these questions turn into a bedtime ritual, followed by a big hug and a cuddle because they feel truly heard and safe.
Keep these conversations going, and you’ll see real changes. Not every moment will be perfect, but you’ll find more understanding and trust growing day by day. It’s about turning those everyday talks into real connections that strengthen your family.
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