Never Tell Your Kids You re Proud of Them
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Never Tell Your Kids You're Proud of Them
Seeking Approval: What "I'm Proud of You" Really Says
Before you write me off as a crazy lady, hear me out here—I'm not saying don't be proud of your kids.
You know when you see your kid successfully doing something for the first time or achieving something they've been working towards how that indescribable good feeling washes over you? These are incredible moments to witness as a parent and should absolutely be celebrated.
I LOVE celebrating my kid's accomplishments, big and small, every step of the way. It's amazing to see the people we love succeed.
But not by saying, 'I'm so proud of you.'
You see, our lives are made up of energy, and every word we say carries its own vibration and shapes our entire reality. And what we say has a huge impact on shaping our children's confidence and self-worth. Our words have so much power!
A foundational element of my Happy Life System is examining and reframing the language we use to be the most effective, loving, and positive it can be to create the outcomes we desire in our lives.
So, let's take a deeper look at the phrase, "I'm proud of you." When we say this to our children, we are inadvertently teaching them that their worth depends on *our *validation. And we are setting them on a path to always look outside themselves for confirmation that they are good enough. It's like we're saying, "You're only great when I say so."
That means when we say, "I'm proud of you," it's like we're taking a piece of our child's energy and making it about us instead of them.
If you want to empower your kids to tap into their inner strength and joy in a way that honors their journey and makes space for their self-worth, use language that guides them to believe in themselves, and then there's no limit to what they can achieve.
The Mind Pillar: Teaching Your Child Inner Strength and Confidence
One of the pillars of the__ Happy Life System is the Mind Pillar.__ This is all about creating a mindset filled with gratitude, joy, and positivity. It's about empowering your child to stand tall and unshakable even when life throws its curveballs.
And here's the thing, developing a positive mindset in your child isn't just about telling them how proud you are or showering them with praise. While supporting your child is incredibly important, it's equally important to do this in a way that empowers them.
When you shift how you communicate your pride and support, you're giving your child the power to become self-motivated and resilient.
Think of your child's mind like a muscle—it needs regular training to stay strong and resilient. And with the right mindset and attitude, there's nothing they can't accomplish.
Are you ready to empower your kids and guide them to unlock unlimited happiness in their lives through the power of positive thinking and self-belief?
3 Ways to Empower Your Child Without External Validation
With inspiration from the Happy Life System's New Language of Heartspeak, you can change up the words you use the next time your child does something amazing.
These are three alternative phrases you can use that uplift and empower your kids:
1. "I believe in you." This simple phrase communicates unwavering support and confidence in your child's abilities. It reinforces their self-belief and encourages them to trust in themselves, no matter what challenges they face.
__2. "You are elevating every day." __By acknowledging your child's growth and progress, you're shining a light on their journey of self-improvement. This phrase celebrates their continuous efforts and motivates them to keep going and stay focused on their goals.
__3. "You are the creator of your life, and you inspire me." __Wow, talk about empowerment! These words always give me chills. Because this statement not only recognizes your child's autonomy and potential but also highlights the positive impact they have on others, including you. It's a powerful reminder of their ability to shape their own path in life and inspire those around them.
Remember, words have power. You can choose yours in a way that teaches your kids how to love themselves, honor themselves, and celebrate themselves for all they have accomplished in their lives.
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