Set Yourself Up to Be a Happy Parent

April 23, 2025•

How to Create a Happy, Structured Home Life for Your Kids

Transform Your Parenting Experience

If I asked you to rate your happiness as a parent right now on a scale from 1 to 10, where would you be? Want to boost that number? Then keep reading because I’m going to share some steps that will not only raise your ability to experience happiness as a parent but will transform your life.

In this post, I want to introduce you to what I call a positive parenting cycle—which is a framework designed to help you nurture resilience, healthy relationships, and personal growth. And, oh yeah, ultimately, love parenting.

But some tough love first… As parents, we must be willing to put in the work so that our kids can be true and authentic to who they really are. This doesn’t mean piling more onto your already full plate. Instead, the ‘work’ involves showing up in a genuine way and being fully present in moments, big and small. The ‘work’ means living the values you want to instill in your children—like honesty, self-love, kindness, and resilience—right in front of their eyes.

You see, over the past 16 years as a mom, I’ve prioritized how I show up for my kids, and they have transformed my life. Everything I’ve done to create this lifestyle for us has come from a place of me wanting to be a happy parent and raise happy kids.

The amazing thing? Most days, I’m really high on the happiness parent scale. Sure, not every moment of every day—parenting has its ups and downs, after all. But following this system has changed the game for me. Even on tough days, I find reasons to smile. That’s real happiness, right? When you can find joy even when it’s hard. And I’m so excited to share with you ways you can start your own happy parenting journey today.

Implementing the Positive Parenting Cycle

When you implement a structure in your life as a parent, you’re going to have some incredible changes in your home. I’m talking about having systems in place for:

Your mornings, afternoons, and evenings
Roles for family members
What contributions look like in your home
Shared values with your family

I know, I know! This might sound like a lot! But trust me, these systems will help you live with balance and joy and create happiness in your daily life as a parent.

*I have 5 important steps in this positive parenting cycle that will help you become a happy, more present parent. *

A Positive Parenting Cycle

Establish a Language of Honor, Love, and Respect

The language we use in our home is so important. Start by using positive, loving words with your children. This creates an environment where everyone feels valued and understood.

Example*:* Instead of saying, “Hurry up, this always takes you so long,” try saying, “I know you can do this; let’s work together.”

And if you’re looking for more on this, check out my blog: The Power of a Parent’s Words.* *

Create a Structured Routine

Morning, midday, and nighttime routines give your family a predictable and comforting rhythm. It’s really important to involve your kids in this process. Talk with them about activities that they want included in the family routine.

Example: Set up a morning checklist that includes things like brushing teeth, packing school bags, and getting outside for 5 minutes.

Outline Roles and Contributions

Clearly define each family member’s responsibilities. Treat your family like a team. How can you hold each other accountable and contribute? This includes even your youngest children, too.

Example: Ask your children about different ways they’d like to contribute to the home, like feeding pets, watering plants, doing the dishes. And talk about ways they can be responsible in their own daily lives, like getting enough rest and finding ways to move their body each day.

Integrate Fun into Daily Life

You’ve got to prioritize activities that bring joy and laughter into your home. This is essential in strengthening your family bonds.

Example: Have a weekly game night or plan spontaneous dance parties in the living room.

Commit to Quality Time Without Distractions

Dedicate time each day to be fully present with your children. Turn off digital devices and give 100% of your attention.

Example:* *Try things like spending 15 minutes before bedtime to talk with your kids about their day, read a book together, or just cuddle. Or create a time and place in your home where screens are off-limits, like when you’re having dinner together.

Live Your Best Parenting Life

If you add these steps into your daily life, you will notice a profound shift in your home and in your life as a parent.

Your children will feel more secure and appreciated, and you will find more joy and fulfillment in your parenting journey. Remember, creating a positive environment at home is not about perfection but about being present, patient, and playful.

Trust the process and enjoy the beautiful transformation in your family life. I’m here for you, and I believe in you.