The Power of a Parent s Words
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- Child helping out at home (setting dinner table, cleaning dishes, washing car, etc)
- Parent & child happily connecting (celebrating, hugging, laughing, high 5, sitting together smiling) and it’s a small moment, not a big celebration
How To Speak To Your Children Like They Matter (Because They Do!)
Why Words Are Your Superpower
Have you ever caught yourself saying, “You’re killing it!” or telling someone, “You’ll slay that day!”?
These phrases are meant to uplift and motivate, right? But if we really dive deeper into the meaning of those words, they carry a weight and impact that doesn't resonate the way we intend and influences and shapes our entire mindset and reality.
Words aren’t just sounds or letters strung together—they’re powerful. Words are like casting a spell—each phrase you speak can create joy, confidence, and connection or bring uncertainty, doubt, and disconnection.
A big part of the Happy Life System is my revolutionary language called The New Language of Heartspeak where you learn the impact of your words, and are given a path to reframe your language to positively shape your mindset, your parenting, and your life. It’s like choosing the healthiest ingredients for a meal, but instead, you’re selecting the most nourishing words in every moment to feed the connections and happiness that you truly desire in life.
Being mindful and intentional with our language is so important. As parents, connection with our kids is something we all deeply value. Remember when they were babies? We would babble back at them, hold them close, and repeat sweet, reassuring phrases like “I’m here,” “I’ve got you,” “You’re safe.” As they grow, life gets more complex, and our conversations evolve, but we can still have those powerful moments with our kids. And in fact, in order for them to grow into confident, resilient humans, we must.
So, if you’re aiming for authentic connection with your children, then having thoughtful, heartfelt phrases you can come back to can strengthen your bond and empower you as a parent.* __It’s about carving out intentional time each day to make eye contact, truly connect, and choose powerful words that resonate with love and support with your kids.*__
Here’s What Your Kid Really Needs to Hear
In parenting, every moment presents an opportunity to build up your child’s inner strength and reinforce your bond together.
The words you choose will empower, reassure, and inspire your kids as they navigate life’s challenges and triumphs.
Here are three phrases you can start using today to build stronger connections with your kids:
Making Choices Matter
- __Scenario: __When your child wants to make a choice. Maybe your child is deciding whether to sign up for basketball, or they’re picking out what they want to wear that day.
- Conscious Phrase: “I honor and respect you.”
- __Why It Works: __This phrase empowers your child by validating their ability to make decisions. It shows trust and respect for their judgment, which leads to independence and self-confidence.
Acknowledging Contributions
- __Scenario: __When your child helps you or supports you. This might be them setting the table for dinner or bringing in the groceries without being asked.
- Conscious Phrase:* **“I appreciate you and am grateful for you.” *
- __Why It Works: __Expressing gratitude not only acknowledges their effort but also makes your child feel valued and significant. This reinforces their desire to contribute and nurtures a supportive family dynamic.
__Celebrating Courage __
- __Scenario: __When your child does something courageous and bold. An example here might be if they try a new activity that they initially felt nervous about.
- __Conscious Phrase: __*“I believe in you and am inspired by you.” *
- __Why It Works: __Affirming your child’s bravery encourages them to face challenges with confidence. It also tells them that you see and appreciate their strengths, which can inspire them to continue to make choices that align with their dreams and makes space for them to grow and learn.
By integrating these phrases into your daily interactions, you not only enhance your communication but also deepen the emotional connection with your child.
It’s about being present, intentional, and supportive in ways that resonate and build a nurturing environment where your child feels seen, heard, and loved.
Not Your Average Praise: Upgrade Your Words, Upgrade Their World
By being intentional with your language, you will help your children see the beauty in who they are, empowering them to embrace their unique paths.
So the next time your child excitedly tells you about finally learning how to do a cartwheel, instead of saying, “You nailed it,” you might say, “I’m so inspired by you and how hard you’ve worked!”
Or when your child starts loading the dishwasher after a meal, rather than a simple “Thanks,” you could share, “I really appreciate you and how you’re helping to take care of our home.”
Are you ready to unlock meaningful connections with your child? I’ve got so many more tools and resources for you that I am so excited to share with you. You’ll love my self-paced* Crack the Parenting Code** online course. You can also discover the** 8 Secrets to Being a Happy Parent** in my** free e-book*.
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